‘My partner wants to dump me after I gave him a present that I won in a raffle’

A woman said that her partner threatened to break up with her after she gave him a prize she won in a raffle as his Christmas present.

Sharing her story anonymously, the woman said that she’d won a brand new Nintendo Switch just before Christmas, and thought it’d make for a good present for her partner.

She thought it would help her save a bit of cash at Christmas, but her partner wasn’t impressed by her frugal outlook when he discovered where the gift had come from.

The woman said that she also gifted her partner a set of homemade scented candles, and he was gutted that she hadn’t spent any money on him at Christmas.

Taking to Reddit, she said: “For my work Christmas party (end of November) we had a raffle, with the prize being a Nintendo Switch, something my boyfriend was considering getting himself.

“I ended up winning and immediately thought he’d love it. I also wanted to make him two candles, one with the main scents of the perfume that I wear that he likes, and the second of scents that he likes.

“I thought these would be great presents.

“When opening my presents, he was excited about the Nintendo Switch but didn’t seem that excited about the candles. I wrote little notes with the candles but he barely even glanced at them.

“He was upset that I had only gotten him ‘one real gift’ when he got me three, which made him feel underappreciated.”

After sharing her story online, other Reddit users agreed with the woman and said that her partner was being unrealistic.

One said: “A gift is something you put time and effort into. A gift shouldn’t revolve around the monetary aspect.”

Another user added: “It’s the thought that counts, not the money. Also, the candles cost you money because of the supplies needed to make it and free or not, the Nintendo was also a nice present since she won it for her boyfriend, adding even more value to it.”

A third person said: “You didn’t just throw together random things you got for free without any consideration on if he would like them.

“They were thoughtful and a gift is much more than just how much you spent.”

However, some people said that the woman was in the wrong for being ‘cheap’.

One user voiced: “I view your cheapness as a red flag that I certainly would consider as it pertains to the future of a relationship and your willingness to pull your own weight financially.”

As someone else shared: “Just because you like something doesn’t mean the receiver will. It’s your hobby, not his.”